To handle big changes in life, spiritual teacher Hope Fitzgerald suggests moving quickly into a flow state of love and compassion instead of resisting. She calls her tool the Infinity Wave, an image she says came to her in a 2010 vision. Hope and Jeremy Van Wert also discuss letting go of old identities and preparing for the fact that nothing stays the same.
ᛉKey takeaways
- Hope believes change is necessary because the soul cannot develop without it, and that life is happening for us, not to us.
- She describes the Infinity Wave as a simple image you can think about or look at to shift into a flow state of love and compassion.
- Hope suggests trying the wave in ordinary situations, such as traffic, a grocery line or a hard conversation, and says you do not have to fully buy in to test it.
- Hope says letting go of old stories and identities works best with love, compassion and gratitude, not force.
- Jeremy's advice from his corporate years: always keep your resume ready, and treat nothing as permanent.
ᛃ Moments in this one
ᚠHow to handle big changes in life: Hope's view
Hope Fitzgerald is a spiritual teacher, dowser, author and end-of-life midwife. She tells Jeremy that, after the last five years of upheaval, one lesson stands out: change is going to happen. In her view, it is also necessary, because the point of a life is to go through a series of changes that develop the soul.
Hope sees the upheaval as a push toward what she calls conscious evolution. Evolution used to move slowly in the background, she says, and now it is speeding up and asking people to make choices. She does not minimize the losses. She says she would not call these years a gift lightly, but believes they are forcing people to change their lives so their outer worlds reflect their inner ones.
Her short answer for anyone resisting change is a phrase she repeats at the end: life is happening for us, not to us. These are her personal beliefs and experiences, shared openly in the conversation.
ᚢWhat is the Infinity Wave?
Hope says she had been on a spiritual path since childhood, but kept it private. By October 2010 she felt she was at zero physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. At a pair of sound healing workshops, she says, she asked one last question about why her year had gone the way it did, and received an answer that moved her into gratitude. She surrendered with the sentence, "I am a willing vessel. Do with me what you will."
Back home, she says, she stopped in her living room because a turquoise wave about ten stories high was moving slowly toward her. The message she received was that the wave represents a push of evolution coming to the planet, and that resisting it will be harder than learning to surf it. The wave then turned into a figure eight made of flowing water that stayed in front of her.
Hope dowsed to ask what it was. She says she was told it is a tool for the times ahead, carrying a high frequency of love and compassion. She was also told to start giving workshops in 2011. She did not want to, she says, but remembered her promise to be a willing vessel.
ᚦLetting go of old identities and falling off the cliff
Hope says many people, like her, have read many books and done many workshops while still standing on the cliff edge with their toes hanging over. She believes you do not know the universe will catch you until you leap, and that real co-creation begins in the not knowing.
Jeremy notes that letting go can feel like losing your identity, since identities are often built around old traumas and labels such as survivor. He describes it as leaping across the Grand Canyon, and says many people are being forced to do it right now.
On the practical side, Hope says her channeled practices teach letting go with love, compassion and gratitude, not a hammer. She describes thanking old stories for how they served her, then letting the wave carry away what is no longer needed. If you are standing at your own cliff edge, Jeremy offers individual therapy and coaching to help you through it.
ᚨHow to use a flow state in stressful moments
Hope calls the Infinity Wave a cosmic easy button, because it can be as simple as looking at the image or thinking about it. She links love, compassion and flow, and says that if you can get into a flow state quickly, you can handle what comes more gracefully. She suggests applying it to traffic, to the person checking your groceries, to a surgery or to a difficult conversation.
Her advice is not to fully buy in. Just try it and see what happens. She tells a story from her weekly call about a man at a gas station who saw someone berating a woman across the street. Hope says he decided to try the wave, and within about 10 seconds the man walked away. Other people on the call, she says, use it with crying toddlers in stores.
She also describes a hospital story. While waiting with a friend before neck surgery, she says, an anesthesiologist rattled off details with no warmth. Hope says she silently chose a different picture, said "I like your hat" and felt a burst go out from her. The woman, she says, immediately turned warm and kind. Hope draws a lesson about intentions: leave room for an outcome better than the one you can picture.
ᚱHow to prepare for change at work and in life
Jeremy ties this to his corporate years. He says he always told people to keep their resume written and ready, keep certifications current and watch for warning signs at work. The people who practiced the idea that nothing is permanent handled a layoff or reorganization better. The ones who treated a job as secure were often furious when change came.
He sees this as a spiritual idea too: prepare your mind for the fact that change could affect where you live, where you work and who is around you. He adds that you have the right and the responsibility to arrange the pieces so you can welcome what is new. Readers who want to know the background behind that advice can read more about Jeremy, a licensed therapist and former CEO.
ᚲWhat is real when everything feels shaky?
Jeremy asks how people can stay out of darkness as things become more difficult. Hope says it helps to ask what is real. For her, it is her soul, her belief that she chose to be here now, and her sense of being connected to the earth, to others and to something bigger.
She adds a plainer answer: she knows she can feel love, compassion and empathy, and she can act. She can write emails, go to the store and send prayers. When people are destabilized, she says, they become reactive, and a quick shift into love and compassion can help calm a tense moment.
Hope also warns against living 90 percent in the heights. She suggests picturing the wave extending above and below you, so you stay connected to the earth while holding a heightened state. She calls this living between earth and spirit, where we are the ones who can act on the guidance we receive.
ᚷWhere to find Hope and her workshops
Hope offers free weekly Monday night channeled meditations through her website. She also leads annual trips, which she says she chooses by dowsing, and works with composer Gary Malcolm on workshops called You Awake, Mastering the Art of Change and Graceful Passages, a grief-to-gratitude workshop. She wrote her book, The Infinity Wave, after being asked to for ten years.
Hope says she has seen change in the people who join her, and adds that she wants to offer experiences, not tell people what to believe. If you want to keep exploring ideas like these with other curious people, you can join Thriving Spirits, the Mindful Mutiny community, which offers real conversation, live Fireside Chats and a course library.
The spiritual, energy and channeled views shared here are the guest's own beliefs, not medical advice or established science.
ᚨ Questions people ask
What is the Infinity Wave?
Hope Fitzgerald describes it as a figure eight image made of flowing water that she says came to her in a vision in 2010. She presents it as a simple tool for shifting into a flow state of love and compassion.
How do you handle big changes in life, according to Hope?
Hope believes change is necessary for the soul to grow, and that preparing your mind for impermanence helps. She suggests moving quickly into a flow state of love and compassion when a moment feels fraught.
How can you use a flow state in a stressful moment?
Hope says you can call on the wave by looking at it or thinking about it, even in traffic or before a hard conversation. She suggests treating it as an experiment and watching what happens.
How do you let go of old stories and identities?
In Hope's view, do it with love, compassion and gratitude for how those stories served you. She describes letting the wave carry away what is no longer needed, and says you can keep a small remnant if you wish.